Friendship means Forever?

Friendship isn’t always about Forevers!!❤

We have always held this term with highest regard. There are millions of people who have left a mark by proving their eternal friendship. More than million quotes , books , plays have been written. And all this leads to one thing that kills human the most : Expectations!! 
Expectations of being perfect and most idealistic. 

But is it fair ? Is it okay to compare your individual equation with someone based on the hype that revolves around this term ?? Is it fair to define this term and bound it with your rules ?? Is it ?? 
We all have different friends : childhood friends , school friends , building friends , college friends , social media friends , good friends , time pass friends , whenever in need friends , 4 am friends , hanging out friends, family friends and BEST FRIENDS !!!! 
Yes the word itself holds a pool of expectations and idealism. Your best friend is supposed to be yours only. He/She has to share everything with you. Do whatever you tell them to. Be with you everytime you cry. Celebrate all your joys like their own. Hate the people you hate. And above all be with you FOREVER !! 



Why?? Is friendship about being ideal? Does it mean that no matter how special you were to them if they decide to drift away they are bad ? That if life changes them and their priorities don’t match yours they are bad ? That if your growth is hampered as a human in stage of life you still shouldn’t let go? Is friendship only about being the best version of idealism to someone ??? 
Friendship is a term in dictionary!! You add meaning and value to it by your own likes and dislikes in other person. Friendship is all about you and your friend . It’s not about the world !! If you both could make a difference in each other’s life but couldn’t last forever it means your definitions changed and that’s okay , Change is the only constant !
Remember we are all humans and we all have different destiny and most of the times we are parted away to solve the purpose of our life and that’s just okay. Don’t energise everything on terms ; focus more on your definitions and you shall always find meaning. 
Friendship is not about forevers it’s about letting yourself be the best version of YOU with or without them by your side. 

P.S. I know you had a rough patch recently and that it’s hard but you have got this , okay ?? I have been busy with stuff and couldn’t really write but take this as my token for what you achieved today 🙂 I am proud of you dear friend. Thank you for appreciating my writing , this one is just for you . Hope it helps you Define !! Be Wise !! Be You 🙂 

Satisfaction! 

The most satisfying feeling comes when you make someone’s life better
It comes when you make them laugh when all they want to do is cry
It comes when you see the most loved ones having tears of happiness 
It comes when a flashback races through and leaves a smile
In life while each one of us works hard to earn ;to spend ;to dream and to grow very few are lucky to have satisfaction !
If it isn’t satisfying you; LEAVE!!! If it makes you question yourself; QUIT!!!! If it leaves you with nothing but tears; BREAKUP!!!! If it is not what makes the God in you happy and proud ; STOP!!!! Pause!!! Breathe !!!! Re-Start again !! But there is no achievement as big as SATISFACTION!!! 

P.S. Now I think you do it to get featured in my PS section!! Kidding!! Thank you for always missing my blog and reminding me about it and making me write!!! People like you make me smile ☺️☺️ And again this delay was because I was super busy!!!!!

The only constant is YOU

As kids , we have always been told to wait for the next moment. We are expected to do everything in present for the happiness of future 

Go to school and score to be in good college. Score in college to be a good professional. Be a good professional to earn more. Earn more to spend more.

But we save it for the future!!! 

We all live in hope for a good future and a lot of us fail to understand that it is the present which  is supposed to be lived. 

The future is not real and can never be planned. 

Your favourite subject will soon become a bore.

Your dream job will soon be a pain.

Your favourite holiday destinations will become tiring

The people you thought will be till the end will diverge!

Nothing is permanent.

Life isn’t a phase! It is a book of multiple chapters. 

Each chapter beholds something special.

And in every chapter new people are introduced to play their role as the old ones exit.

The only constant is you! Only you!

So the friend that hurt you, the boyfriend that broke you, the test you failed, the job you quit or the dream that shattered were not the end of your life but a end to that chapter.

Every chapter ends and one day the life ends too. 

Don’t hold grudges. 

Don’t cry.

Don’t quit.

He broke your heart? Forgive him.

You scored less? Try harder next time 

You failed? Keep in mind the learnings 

You gave up a job? Find a new one

Every human has a heart that beats but remember it beats to keep you alive and one day it will stop. That day you should only remember what “YOU” did, how much you laughed and how happy you were.

Do everything that makes you happy… Most importantly do everything that gives you peace.. Even if that means calling that guy or speaking to the ex-best friend or not giving the test or quitting the job. If it makes you happy! Do it! 

For every chapter has only one constant “YOU!”

And that YOU should be happy in every moment! 

Failed Friendships, Fake Friendships!

(Failed Friendships!)

Suddenly,it was a question about me and my friendships! 

About the friendships that stopped existing 
About the friendships that were never meant to be but made me feel otherwise 

They say as you grow up, you start loosing friends but does this growth give you strength for accepting the loss?

What went wrong?

What changed?

Was it me?

Was it me who failed? 

Was it me whose efforts didn’t seem enough? 

Was it me who inspite of giving everything to them couldn’t take it far?

Too many failed friendships made me question myself!

And amidst the noises in my head my heart whispered they were never really your friends!

(Fake Friendships!)

And then I realised it was purely my destiny and fortune that bestowed me with only the best people in my life and kept removing the toxic ones so that one day all my efforts would be reciprocated and my friendships would last forever!

Destiny?

He asked me, “Do you believe in destiny?”
I smiled, “If it wasn’t destiny I would have never seen you!”
But…

And I sigh to myself it was destiny who removed all those toxic people and made me the one I am today so that you could fall in love with me….
And I hug him tight and say,”But it’s your efforts baby, you earned it.”
And with pride he hugs me tighter as I thank god in my heart.

Friends Forever?

They were people who were supposed to be there forever;who promised to be a part of my wedding;who had planned vacations with me;who were going to cry hard when I died. 

What happened to them?

Did I change? 

Did they change? 

What became so important that every dream had to shatter ??

That every friendship had to fade??

As I was having these thoughts and flashbacks the love of my life enters with my best friend to show me how much I mean to them with a photo book of our wedding pictures and tickets to my favourite destination.
The dreams still existed, the dreams were being fulfilled too but the people changed.
Those people who were supposed to be till the end were actually the people who had to make me reach here unfortunately without them. 
People keep playing their roles and leave, don’t get your strings attached until it’s real.