Respect yourself enough to take the right decision!!
Today as my best friend turns 21!! I remember every moment that we have shared !!
It started 8 years ago, when I suddenly wanted to be with her and she I don’t know why wanted to be with me!! So much so that she chose me over her friends.
That’s how we kept growing !!
We fought ! We made up!!
I cried and we patched up !
A journey seeming so short but experienced so deep
In these 8 years I have admired her, I have hated her, I have been led down , I have been surprised , I was handled, I was loved , I was her priority (I still am) !,I was ; I am and I will be hers always !!
There were times when I have acted like a kid
There were times when I thought our friendship should probably end
Then there were times when she meant nothing but the world to me !!
I kept changing ; I kept growing but her LOVE was as pure always
I remember setting high expectations and being sad
But today baby I want to tell you how much I love you!!!
I don’t care what’s happened I don’t care what would happen next but right now right here I know no other person would have loved me the way you have!!!
8 years of friendship is what we have shared
It’s only about your happiness that I care
You became my mother and my father
You loved me like no other
I broke your heart
I questioned your love
I made you doubt
I left you spell-bound
I treated you like a family
I pampered you more than anybody
I gave you all I had
I loved you like mad
With all the ups and downs
You knew how to straighten my frowns
No combination of 26 alphabets can describe us
And I am in love with us
I wanna tell you SORRY I wanna tell you THANK YOU!!
I wanna tell you I LOVE YOU!!
Happy birthday baby ❤️😘
Every tear that rolled down her cheeks
Added weight to her life lessons;
The one who loved everyone
Now believed only in one!
Being a hypersensitive and over emotional woman being,I had always given special days more importance than it deserved
I used to plan for such days and birthdays months in advance
I used to make sure that the person receiving all my love feels like he/she is the best that could ever happen to me
But !! They never felt that ! Those cards,gifts , long messages, posts and everything else lived only for a day and after that kept dying in a closet.
Did it make them feel the best ?! Certainly, NO
When we do things we love; we expect others to view them that way too
But it doesn’t work that way!
If red means the colour of love to me ; it might mean violence to the other
All these years I gave everything I had to receive exactly the same in return and obviously I never got it
But instead I got some really important lessons !
So when I finally understood the meaning of “Friendship Day!” I stopped celebrating it
It still tempts me to take efforts;to shower love but luckily my heart aches and I decide to look away!!
Days aren’t meant to show the world what the other person means to you !!
When you are crying hard and can’t even speak a word but your bestfriend holds the line and let’s you cry that’s when you should tell her, “I Love You!”
I didn’t celebrate friendship day in fact I didn’t even remember it and that didn’t change a thing!!!
It just made me feel peaceful! Peaceful than ever before!!!
P.S. Special thanks to a sweet friend who’s a fan of my blog to remind me about posting!! Just been busy pal! But it’s sweet of you 😉
2 years ago, after the roller coaster of career choices and gaining exposure;I just gave in!
I used to adapt to any thing and used to start doing things in the best way possible! I used to take them as challenges but honestly ,how far would I get with that?!
Almost 2 years ago, when I gave in and my female instincts and tantrums started playing with me (well hormones!) I stopped functioning!
I had a great “excuse” (which was then the world end for me) -my family issues!
I was born over sensitive and hyper emotional; honestly even these adjectives are an understatement! (My best friend is going to have a crazy smile over this line!)
And I didn’t really got out of it! Instead I got another excuse in my life… It was so worthless that even mentioning it is our waste of time!
And that time when my best friend stood by me ;I acted deaf! ( I love you)
But out of everything that we spoke of I think the biggest lesson learnt was:-
“An idle mind is a devil’s workshop!”
Seriously!!!!!!! Soon when things started hitting me hard and I got my old ‘I can do anything’ self back I started a bullshit ending spree!! Literally!!😂(It was fun,surprisingly)
I ended my stupid friendships,worthless conversations and over thinking.
I started working and I got so so busy that even when my heart popped out things, I was like dude I don’t have time for this!
My world became smaller and smaller but my mind became peaceful!
And when I met my best friend recently, she says, You know what ? You have changed?
And I felt nothing but pride !!!! She also told me: “I told you ,when you will get busy you will eventually not care!”
She was right folks, so was my Big Brother!!
When you keep your mind free, your heart takes the charge and it makes you do the crazy dumb thinking and trust me it is not healthy!!!! You spend years thinking and feeling in a way but when you grow up, when you have become mature and enter the new phase those years’ old ideologies fail !!
They are a waste!!
So , honestly even if it’s a day and you got nothing just do something!
Go out, clean your room,read a book, start a new course or create something beautiful!
Because later in life,you won’t have these moments ! You won’t really have time to spare !
So just go out there and invest your time into some “thing” ( NOT PEOPLE )
You will thank yourself later
Don’t give your mind a break ; don’t let your heart take over.
Be busy, be beautiful and be YOU!!
P.S Also we humans are weird and if once we get used to lazying and wasting time it’s difficult to get your butt up and work again!! Don’t let that happen over any issue (EXCUSE!)
I know it’s hard, I know you are not understanding anything which is going on around you and you feel like your world is shaking and breaking!
But sweetheart, it’s not ! Your world is just getting better and stronger!
You are in the age where everyone around you seems wrong.
You will start questioning your family, your career choices , your friends and even the love of your life.
But it’s okay! It’s a natural human process
It’s a part of life!
This is meant to be this way! If not now then some years later every girl faces this and it’s okay!
Don’t break down;don’t cry;don’t change
Stick to your roots,be yourself and just trust life.
Few years later these sorrows won’t even be important to you!
In fact it would make you realise that if it wasn’t for these sorrows you wouldn’t have been happy
And so you should not stress about it now!
You know while you are trying to cope up and live; you are pushing everyone away! There are few selected people who are taking your shit and pulling you back but slowly the number is going to reduce and in the end it’s going to be you.
Remember to care first for yourself and all the people who pulled you back!
Because not everyone will understand your journey and the ones who do should always be a priority to you!
Dear girl, these are all the steps that lead you to your destination and there is nothing abnormal happening with you ! You are just experiencing life! And you should make it worth a while!
P.S. No matter what you should always wear the smile on your beautiful face!!
“And she’s going to start the same old girl talk.”
“Girls face so much!”
“Wow she’s going to write about the perfect girl!”
No I am not going to talk about girl problems or how beautiful she is as a muse or what makes it difficult to be a girl.
I am simply going to talk about a girl who is “A Human” : Who is alive because of biological processes;who thinks with her brain and loves with her heart;who is capable of creating magic and who is here to experience a life.
A girl who is here to dream,love,hope and believe.
A girl that is you and a girl that is me.
We humans have our perceptions made up so strong that even a single word triggers millions of thoughts and questions in our minds.
Feminism,equality,justice are not merely values or ideologies but categories which have made strong homes in our minds.
And in this world of categories and perceptions the girl just keeps fitting in instead of truly being “A Girl!”